Respect And Submission From Your Wife: Is That A Must For Peace In Your Home?
As A Man, Is Peace In Your Home Dependent On Respect And Submission From Your Wife?
HOW MEN CAN RESTORE PEACE IN THEIR FAMILIES WITHOUT WAITING OR
DEMANDING FOR THE WOMAN’S RESPECT AND SUBMISSION.
by Chrisluchy Initiative
Don’t
twist the Bible
If you are a Christian, you are most likely familiar with the popular Bible verse that says wives should specifically respect their husbands as the church does Christ (Ephesians 5:33). A number of married men, who may not even be familiar with kindergarten-level popular John 3:16 have become so carried away by this singular scripture that they use it as justifications for all forms of acts that turn their homes to what even themselves never ever imagined that marriage could become. They either directly make crazy demands or have expectations from their wives that are even more stupid than crazy.
It
Hurts Everyone
When such crazy expectations and demands, which are either not feasible or needless and meaningless are not met, some of such men go out in search of gratifications to satisfy theses unimportant needs outside their homes, hoping that peace and happiness would be found outside, having turned their own homes into a theatre of sadness with their demands. But, there is always trouble waiting outside, as all the other women you meet outside your own home are also from Venus. So, by the time you have found out how true a sexist Nigerian street saying: “all hole na hole” is, you would have denied your home and everyone the happiness you would have easily found at home, save for the irrational demand for respect and submission that could have naturally come to you. An interesting case study is the that of a popular Nigerian Nollywood actor who is a typical Martian, by all standard. The pains of the consequences of his action is spreading even as far as to his fans and general Nollywood fanbase. See more...
Men
are from Mars
John Gray rightly put it as the title of his book – Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus. And that is where we shall quickly flip back to somewhere in the holy book.
Before John Gray wrote the bestseller, and of course before the Bible verse that such demanding men hold unto, there was the verse 25 of same chapter 5 of that same book of Ephesians. It specifically told men to love their wives as Christ loved the church! Why and how many men miss or ignore this verse remains an enigma. Interestingly, there are many other such verses that, even as they recognize the place of men in the family, clearly made it clear to men that they have to love and uphold their wives no matter what, before or even without expecting the reward of respect and submission. A woman loved by her husband will grow in loveliness, and naturally respect him. And of course, every man respected by his wife is expected to be more responsible.
You Want it? Earn It
It goes without saying
that understanding that your need for something helps you understand why and
how you get it. As a man, you need to ask yourself, do I need to be worshipped
in my own home? Did God not create us all equal as humans, and teaches us that
Christians should honor and respect all humans (1
Peter 2:17)? Have I respected and submitted to my wife as much as I would
want from her?
Finally, is your wife your strength or
your weakness? No doubt a whole lot of men may twist it in a lewd way, and
settle for weakness when it comes to other women, justifying their inability to
remain faithful to their marriages. But, as Venetians, your wife wants you to
be putty in her hand, and not in the hands of some other woman outside. Let her
be your strength in that way and you would have earned the respect without
asking for it. Communicate your feelings about anything in a loving manner, and
you would have her submit to you like soft, passive venetian she is. And your
home would be a place of peace.
No matter what, especially for married Christian men you must always bear in mind that…
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